Asking for help takes courage

Asking for help takes courage

In this video, the speaker discusses the difficulty of reaching out for help when faced with tough situations in life or relationships. They emphasise how challenging it can be for many individuals to seek support and stress the importance of realising that nobody can manage everything alone. The script outlines three essential steps for effectively asking for help: being mindful of your thoughts and emotions, clearly expressing your needs, and honing these skills to avoid overwhelming your partner. It encourages people to think about friends and family members who can offer support, thereby promoting the well-being of the entire family.

A man speaks:

Let me ask you a question. How good are you at asking for help when you're finding life or your relationship tough going?

We can find it really hard to ask for help, or sometimes even knowing what sort of help we might need. You may have got messages growing up that said you can manage things all by yourself. But life is much more complicated than that, and the reality is we can't do this life thing alone. The other big question to think about is who in my life can support us to manage tough situations. Who is around us who can hold me through the tough times, and who is around who won't just accept my view, but understands that we're connected and that everyone is impacted by what is happening.

There are 3 steps in asking for help.

Step number 1 is to be aware of your thinking and feeling. If you find yourself getting sucked into negative and dangerous thinking then it's a time to let others know what's going on for you.

Step number 2 is to front-foot the issue, by being able to say what your needs are.

Step Number 3 is to practise this skill across situations so as not to burden your partner or ex-partner. Partners can feel pressure if they're the only place you go to for support.

Consider your friends and family who could be there for you and support the wellbeing of the whole family.