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There are people who’ve used family violence behaviour in the past but have successfully made changes to be violence-free. Making change can be challenging and takes time, but you’re not alone.

Jeremy, Wiremu, Josh, Ete and Corban tell their stories of facing challenges with family violence behaviour and changing their lives for the better. For themselves and their family/whānau.
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2:08
Corban - Thinking about change
The night I knew I needed help
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4:37
Ete - Taking Steps for Change
Learning new skills for the toolbox
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3:54
Wiremu - Staying on Track
Why I'm doing it for me and my kids
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2:39
Jeremy - Thinking About Change
How supporting a mate got me to change
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5:26
Josh - Taking Steps for Change
Where I learned you're not any weaker for accepting help
4:05
Wiremu - Thinking About Change
Turning the corner from addiction
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3:19
Josh - Thinking About Change
What my daughter said to make me change
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1:12
Ete - Thinking About Change
Either the violence stops, or I lose my family
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6:52
Jeremy - Taking Steps for Change
Finding the right support at the right time
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3:21
Wiremu - Taking Steps for Change
How I walked out of the darkness
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1:55
Corban - Taking steps for change
Deciding to take action
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3:03
Jeremy - Staying On Track
How I repaired my relationship with my kids
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Ete - Staying on track
Appreciating how far you've come
3:04
Josh - Staying on Track
Why it was so important to make changes early
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1:47
Corban - Staying on track
How my MMA gym keeps me grounded and connected
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18:05
Jeremy's story
How Jeremy broke the cycle of violence
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18:18
Wiremu's story
Positive changes for my family
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9:30
Josh's story
Josh's journey of healing
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14:11
Ete's story
Ete and Mele's journey
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11:12
Corban's story
How Corban overcame abuse in his relationships
9:32
Say Something
Pacific communities speaking up about family violence
11:17
Wiremu Witana
How Wiremu is breaking the cycle of abuse
10:08
Jeremy Eparaima
Helping other men realise they can change too
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5 minutes to regain calm, clarity and confidence
5 minutes to regain calm, clarity and confidence
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A new operating system
A new operating system
2:31
Appreciation and noticing
Appreciation and noticing
2:19
Are you a tāne with a family, or are you a whānau man?
Are you a tāne with a family, or are you a whānau man?
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Being mindful of your echo chamber
Being mindful of your echo chamber
1:21
Distancing from strong feelings
Distancing from strong feelings
2:47
Family well-being is a habit
Family well-being is a habit
1:37
How important is whānau, family safety to you?
How important is whānau, family safety to you?
2:23
How our brain works
How our brain works
1:53
Immediate Safety
Immediate Safety
1:54
Is my behaviour taking me closer to or further away from family wellbeing?
Is my behaviour taking me closer to or further away from family wellbeing?
3:49
Managing distress
Managing distress
2:02
Men don't have emotions - yeah right!
Men don't have emotions - yeah right!
3:45
Preparing for tough situations
Preparing for tough situations
3:29
Respectful communication guidelines
Respectful communication guidelines
3:16
Respectful relating
Respectful relating
5:50
Solving problems
Solving problems
1:59
Stepping away from jealousy
Stepping away from jealousy
2:30
The dozen dirty tricks our mind plays on us
The dozen dirty tricks our mind plays on us
3:01
The land of emotions
The land of emotions
1:57
Time in skills
Time in skills
2:01
Time out
Time out
2:23
What are you bringing home with you?
What are you bringing home with you?
2:27
What's your story?
What's your story?
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Who is on your team?
Who is on your team?
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